Monday, October 25, 2010

Whatever the future may hold...

On December this year we will be celebrating our 13th Wedding Anniversary. Time goes by really fast...It feels like it was only yesterday when me and my husband exchanged vows.

Married life is not easy. In fact it is full of surprises and obstacles. We have been through many rough times, especially our first 5 years. Glad to say we surpassed them somehow :) The saying "it takes two to tango" perfectly applies to married couples. Marriage is a two-way process. If you want it to work, you have to cooperate with each other.

It is not only love that will keep two people together. Constant prayers and making God the center of your lives are also important factors that contribute to a successful relationship. A priest once told me that if you want to have a successful relationship, you must learn how to love unconditionally. We can't expect our partner to be perfect and we cannot tell him/her to change the things that we dislike from that person. The priest also told me that it is wrong to only think of what can make me happy. I have to be selfless. I have to put my kids' feelings first before mine. And what enlightened me most was when he said that God did not ask me to change in order for Him to love me. God loves me for who I am and He does not expect anything in return from me. So I have no right to tell my husband that I will only accept and love him if he will change for me...of course physical abuse and infidelity is another story ;)

Oh well that was many years ago...I am just happy that before I made my decision , I solicited advises from the experts. Prayers truly make wonders and that is something I am 100% sure of. To my husband thank you for being so understanding and patient...rest assured I will love you and be there for you no matter what the future holds for us :)

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